Welcome to The Becoming.
If you’ve been here for the Daily Self-Love Practice, you know how I do things: analog style. Daily Substack Notes and Posts with whatever that feels like me—one page at a time, at my own pace and time.
This is not about becoming someone new.
It’s about coming back to the person who was already in the pages. The one who wants more, says what they mean, and lets themselves be seen no matter how scary or overwhelming.
If The Softening is about “I am safe to feel,” then The Becoming is about “I am safe to be seen.”
It isn’t a glow-up checklist. It isn’t about fixing yourself overnight, or finally becoming confident enough, disciplined enough, healed enough to be chosen.
It’s a practice for the moment after you realize you’ve been shrinking or dimming your own light.
Shrinking your needs and wants. Shrinking your voice. Shrinking in photos, in meetings, in conversations—even in your own journal.
For years, I thought empowerment would feel like a lightning bolt. Or even like a fake-it-until-you-make-it kind of way. But it doesn’t always feel or work that way. It feels like a pencil mark. A little bolder line, a little more self-love than yesterday.
That’s what we’ll do here.
How it works
8 weeks, 2 gentle nudges a week.
Monday Spark: A short story and reflection to open the week. Something to read with your morning tea or coffee.
Friday Ignite/Dare: One tiny, slightly edgy practice (a little dare) to try in real life. The kind that builds evidence that you can do this. That you become who you say you are, not just believe it.
And always, On Paper: a journaling prompt for your self-reflection and practice. Because we practice here first—in pencil/pen—before we take it out there in the real world.
You don’t need to be louder. You just need to be 10% bolder. At your own pace and time in a way that feels meaningful to you and only you.
For the next 8 weeks, we’ll ask:
How are you different than you were yesterday?
What do you actually want?
What would you say or do if you didn’t soften or filter it first?
Where are you hiding—and what would it feel like to be seen just a little more?
No big leaps. No becoming someone else.
Just you—becoming more YOU.
Bring your journal. Let’s begin.
Your first practice today—on paper:
At the top of a blank page, write: “I am allowed to become...”
And finish the sentence 5 times without filtering, censoring, editing, shrinking, or dimming yourself. Feel free to share in the comments!
I’m so glad you’re here! I’ll be doing this right alongside you.
See you Monday, August 17th for our first Spark!
Let’s practice becoming more you the next 8 weeks!
Yours in love, healing, and becoming,
Kathy
P.S. This 8-week course is a free version. Once this course is done, I will release an extended version of The Becoming course complete with goodies and more resources for paid subscribers.
P.P.S. I will also update this Substack Post with links to each week’s Spark and Ignite/Dare so that way you won’t ever get lost.
This sounds really beautiful and I will look forward to the first spark on Monday! I love that you've specified it's not about becoming someone else, just even more yourself. Thank you for sharing this so generously 💛